There are two verses in the Bible that distill the proactive mindset of the Christian quite well.
2Co 10:5 We are destroying arguments and all arrogance raised against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,
Rom 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.
The 2nd Corinthians 10:5 verse is telling us to remove from our life everything that is separating our thoughts from God. If it is taking away time from God, your spouse, your children, your job (assuming you have a job that does not contradict the morality of the Torah), then drop it.
Raise your children in respect of the Lord. Do your job as if you are serving the Lord. Take care of your spouse as if you are serving the kingdom of God. Pray and dwell with God in His word.
What was our Messiah, Lord Jesus the Christ, obedient to?
Col 1:15-21 He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation: for by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones, or dominions, or rulers, or authorities—all things have been created through Him and for Him. He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. He is also the head of the body, the church; and He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, so that He Himself will come to have first place in everything. For it was the Father’s good pleasure for all the fullness to dwell in Him, and through Him to reconcile all things to Himself, whether things on earth or things in heaven, having made peace through the blood of His cross. And although you were previously alienated and hostile in attitude, engaged in evil deeds, yet He has now reconciled you in His body of flesh through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach—
There you go, The cornerstone.
I suggest reading the complete book of Romans three days in a row. So that you make less room for the things of this world. That you may commit the benefits of the obedience of Christ into your heart. And see yourself become transformed by that renewed mind.